DOUGLAS:No, Arthur, you are cheery. No one's interested in the secret of true cheeriness.
ARTHUR:But that's not true. I'm fairly often just completely happy. Like, for instance, when you get into a bath quickly and it's just the right temperature, and you go "ooooh". I mean really no one gets any happier than that.
MARTIN:What a depressing thought.
ARTHUR:No, no, it's not though, because those sort of things happen all the time, whereas you're hardly ever, you know, blissfully happy with the love of your life in the moonlight, and when you are, you're too busy worrying about it being over soon, whereas the bath moments, there's loads of those!
In Kansas, your local neighborhood drug store pharmacist can now refuse to fill your doctor-issued contraception prescription, or any drug he or she thinks might be used to terminate a pregnancy, or be used in conjunction with pregnancy termination, all on the grounds of “religious liberty” and “conscience protection.” Not only that, but anyone who ”reasonably believes” a drug prescription they are filling or “reasonably believes” an action they are taking — say, administering a drug — might result in the termination of a pregnancy is allowed to refuse under Republican Governor Sam Brownback‘s new law.
The so-called “Health Care Rights of Conscience Act,” which curiously exists in several states under the same name (perhaps an ALEC creation?), applies to pharmacists and even nurses and doctors — anyone who is related to the process of pregnancy termination. The drugs could include both abortion-inducing medications, and even emergency contraception like the so-called “morning-after pill,” but also could include drugs used for life-saving reasons — the pharmacist would only have to trust their gut, not the doctor’s orders.
I just booked a four-day Disneyland Vacation. The bad news? It’s not for me.
My parents will be visiting Disneyland in October. I’ll be at home, wishing I could have gone with them.
Mom thought she could outsmart Disney’s reservations system, and it cost her. She looked at the cost of a hotel/ticket package, then the cost of buying them separately, and we convinced she’d save hundreds of dollars by splitting the purchase.
Now, instead of park-hopper tickets, she’s got one-park-per-day tickets. After sales tax, this saved her a total of about $70 off the package price But the package price would have dropped by $30 if she’d just booked that and changed the ticket selection (which was an option - we went through both scenarios). So she really saved about $40 by splitting it into separate ticket/hotel purchases.
Of course, there’s one more important difference…parking was included in the vacation package, and it’s $15/day without the package. Both Mom and I missed that in the fine print until after the hotel was booked. When it’s all said and done, trying to outsmart Disney ended up costing her an extra $6.39.
Still, it could have been much worse…if she’d waited to get tickets until Disneyland’s ticket price increase that goes into effect on Sunday, she would have paid $52 more for the two 4-day tickets for her and my stepdad.
When it comes to a Disney vacation, it pays to read the fine print…and a degree in mathematics couldn’t hurt, either.
So many people say “go big or go home,” but they never mention the spectacular failures that attitude often leads to. For every success story about people who risked it all, there are countless unheralded failures.
Sometimes you go big and go home. You crash and burn, and you go home with your tail between your legs.
I try to be content. I think I could be if I could just concentrate on how much worse I’ve had it, even though I wish I were in a better place now. Sometimes I’ll lie in bed lamenting the fact that I’m a 37-year-old nobody; other times I think of the times when I didn’t have a home or a bed to lie in at all.
Back then the thought of lying in bed, and not having to find somewhere to go to kill time until I could park somewhere (or go into my boss’s office) to sleep without drawing attention to myself was a blissful daydream. It’s just not enough to call myself “happy,” though. Content, yes…I still want more, but I don’t know if it’s in the cards for me.
Hell, I’m still not completely convinced that I wasn’t supposed to die years ago, and somehow slipped through the cracks of destiny.
There was a time when what I have now is exactly what I was trying so hard to get. Well, more or less. Moving back in with mom and stepdad to have it was never part of the plan…but life rarely goes according to plan, does it?
All I can do is roll with the punches the best that I can. I may never find my true happiness again, but if I can stave off the heavy sorrow then I’m at least in a semi-acceptable middle ground.
“Studies have shown, that, indeed, introverts are more likely than extroverts to express intimate facts about themselves online that their family and friends would be surprised to read, to say that they can express the “real me” online, and to spend more time in certain kinds of online discussions. They welcome the chance to communicate digitally. The same person who would never raise his hand in a lecture hall of two hundred people might blog to two thousand, or two million, without thinking twice. The same person who finds it difficult to introduce himself to strangers might establish a presence online and then extend those relationships into the real world.”
If you were going fishing for an entire day, what would you pack in your cooler?
A six-pack of Dr. Pepper and a few sandwiches is all I’d need. Of course, outside the cooler, I’d need a comfy chair, my iPod, a pole holder, a port-a-potty, a generator, a TV, a satellite dish, season one of Once Upon a Time on DVD (which I guess means I need a DVD player too), and a butler.
But I could get by with just the six-pack of Dr. Pepper.
“So congratulations, North Carolina. Last night, you struck a decisive blow for loneliness. And tonight, as you go to sleep beside your heterosexual life mate, you can rest assured that all across your great state, a gay man or lesbian woman is crying themselves to sleep in solitude and making your relationship stronger with each tear.”—STEPHEN COLBERT, The Colbert Report
I am so sick of everyone bashing North Carolina for voting against gay marriage. This is why the Amendments were written in the first place. You can choose what state you live in people!! Want to know which state offends me? California. Why don’t I want to live there? Because I want to own guns. So I don’t fucking live there. It is that simple. America is about freedoms and choices. If you are gay an want to fucking get married, then don’t live in North Carolina! It’s that fucking simple. Stop bitching about it. For the record, I am for freedoms of all types. I am for gay rights, gun rights, AND abortion rights. AND I voted. So don’t even yell at me. I’m just sick of reading all about the anger of the gays of the world with one state. It’s ONE STATE. Get the fuck over it already.
Because it’s 43 states that refuse to allow equal rights, not just one. Six states with constitutional amendements that ban gay marriage (but allow “separate-but-equal” clauses), and another 19 with amendments that forbid both gay marriage AND civil unions. The rest don’t have amendments, but do have laws on the books denying the right (except New Mexico, which has no law banning nor allowing same-sex marriage).
There are only five states — yes, only FIVE FUCKING STATES in the United States that currently recognize the rights of gay and lesbian couples to marry, with two more working on it.
You said it yourself, America is about freedom…so why the hell should we shut up when freedom is denied? People should not have to pack up their lives and move to either Washington D.C. (not a state, but I’m including it anyway), Connecticut, New York, Vermont, Massachusetts, or New Hampshire. Then there’s Washington (as long as they wait until June, and that’s unless the same-sex marriage statute that was passed to allow it isn’t forced to a vote in November, which still has a good chance of happening), and next year they are set to become legal in Maryland.
It’s not just North Carolina. It’s almost 90% of the country. And if people just “get the fuck over it already,” that’s not going to change.
If you’re on tumblr and don’t want to see people complain about a lack of equal rights in a supposedly “free” country, then don’t follow those blogs. It’s that fucking simple. Stop bitching about it.
Sorry to rant. I just hate that stupid “love it or leave it” mentality.
According to a Public Policy Polling survey, as reported in the NY Times:
The Public Policy Polling survey found widespread voter confusion about what North Carolina’s Amendment 1 seeks to accomplish. Just 36 percent of voters answered correctly that it bans both same-sex marriage and domestic partnerships. An additional 26 percent thought it banned same-sex marriage alone. Meanwhile, 10 percent of voters thought a “yes” vote on the amendment would legalize rather than ban same-sex marriage, and 27 percent weren’t sure what it did.
This was reported several days before the election, but it just goes to show that uneducated voting is worse than not voting at all. It’s not a slot machine, it’s your future.
Amendment 1 says ”Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State.” While it’s being called a gay marriage ban, the amendment is more than that—it’s an all-out refusal to recognize any kind of partnership or union that isn’t marriage. So gay North Carolinians, who couldn’t get married anyway, are screwed, and so are straight, unmarried North Carolina couples.
Domestic violence laws protecting people in an unmarried partnerships might be weakened. (This claim has been debated by both sides, and it’s still unclear exactly how the law would impact domestic violence victims. Opponents of Amendment 1 say many of North Carolina’s domestic violence laws offer special protections to victims who have an established relationship with their abusers. So if the amendment narrows the law to legally recognize only marriages, it might weaken these protective laws for unmarried partners. Supporters of Amendment 1, such as Rockingham County District Attorney Phil Berger Jr.,contest this claim. Berger said nothing in the amendment changes any laws on assault, rape, murder, or other crimes.)
Unmarried parents could no longer have the same child custody and visitation rights as married parents.
Private agreements between unmarried couples might not longer have a legal basis. This means, for example, that if a couple who has cohabited and raised children together for years decides to separate, the wealthier partner would not be legally obligated to divide property with his or her partner.
The law could interfere with unmarried partners’ end-of-life arrangements, such as wills, trusts, and medical powers of attorney.
Employers would no longer have to provide benefits, such as health insurance, to the partners of unmarried employees.
But instead of learning that, people rallied against equal rights for one group and potentially made life tougher for many more.
Maybe in November more people will actually pay attention to what they’re voting on.
Since I’ve seen so many of these and have no clue who has or hasn’t done it, I’m going to eschew the rules and not tag anyone (except the two who tagged me) so I don’t unnecessarily contribute to the meme getting too overplayed.
Also, since I’m answering 22 questions (which took me longer than I had thought it would), I don’t want to come up with another 11 on top of that. But mostly I just really wanted a chance to use the word eschew.
So here are the 22 questions I got and the answers.
C’mon, North Carolina, even Disney had this stuff figured out 17 years ago.
It’s not a tax on your house. It’s has absolutely no effect on the way anyone who isn’t gay lives their life. It’s about basic civil rights. It’s about treating other people like human beings. For the religious among you, this is what God commands. Love your fellow man. Leave the judging to Him, if you believe He exists.
I just find it absolutely pathetic that so many people still have so much bigotry in their hearts that they actually voted to further oppress gay people. After all, gay marriage was already illegal in North Carolina…this was just a hateful slap in the face on top of that. It was just a juvenile electoral version of rubbing it in.
To those of you here who I follow that I know live in North Carolina (I know of two off the top of my head), you have my sympathies for being surrounded by such small-mindedness.